Love and Ambivalence

September 18th, 2007

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What if it ends? What if I enjoy you more than you enjoy me? What if your delight in me is bogus? Or worse, what if it is mere manipulation to get from me what you want? What if I love you and then you die, divorce me, or turn against me? The risk is more than I can bear, and so I refuse to open my heart to another person who will arouse my desire and then might use me or dash me to the ground.

Such ambivalence is the enemy of love, [because love] is the capacity to offer ourselves to others.

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Exert from The Healing Path by Dan Allender, pg 29

(Art above created by my housemate, Blaine Hogan)

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18 Responses to “Love and Ambivalence”

  1. Zach Bulick @ September 18th, 2007 at 10:45 pm:

    I might just have to read some Dan Allender…

  2. Tina @ September 19th, 2007 at 2:40 am:

    YOU AND ME

    My soul is breathing

    For the adventures

    Of my next me

    For the chance

    Of being understood

    Let me see your mind

    And I will open mine

    For the full excitement

    Of love YOU AND ME

    My soul is breathing

    For the adventures

    Of my next me

    For the chance

    Of being understood

    Let me see your mind

    And I will open mine

    For the full excitement

    Of love

    (poem written by Lucia Ludvigova)

  3. Ambivalence is the Enemy of Love « Ryan’s Spiritual Journal @ September 19th, 2007 at 7:07 am:

    [...] Ambivalence is the Enemy of Love While reading Love In the Key of Longbreak today I read the following great quote: [...]

  4. Melody @ September 19th, 2007 at 8:24 am:

    I like the artwork.

  5. Joe @ September 19th, 2007 at 10:57 am:

    Yet with Faith, love can be rewarding. Love is painful, but with faith it can erase all pain. Love never fails! Maybe that’s just my hermeneutic, too. In order to make love work, you have to take the leap!

  6. ZuzkaMoravcik @ September 20th, 2007 at 2:10 am:

    i loooove the artwork and the style you wrote this

  7. ZuzkaMoravcik @ September 20th, 2007 at 2:12 am:

    ok, let me go one more time, the style you choose topics for your blogs .. Dan Allender seems to know what I need to hear
    be blessed, Josh

  8. Krista @ September 20th, 2007 at 8:01 am:

    I hear you’re coming to Dublin. This is exciting to me. It’s a great place and like most great things, it’s worth sharing. Plus, it will be oh so nice to see familiar faces like yours and Laurie’s among all the new ones. Let me know if you or any of the group would have time or desire to see more of this place. (Hiking, historic what nots, and pubs…)

  9. Krista @ September 20th, 2007 at 8:12 am:

    And I’ve been praying for your time in Seattle.

  10. Becky @ September 21st, 2007 at 12:23 pm:

    I might just have to read some Dan Allender, too. Thanks for the pointer, Josh!

  11. jess @ September 21st, 2007 at 12:38 pm:

    [i like blaine's artwork]

  12. alyssa @ September 21st, 2007 at 4:55 pm:

    those are some powerful and strong words.

  13. muzik316 @ September 23rd, 2007 at 9:04 pm:

    If love is indeed in the key of longbrake what key would that be?

    I think I may look up this Dan guy.

  14. Savannah @ September 24th, 2007 at 11:28 pm:

    Yea…needed that. gracias

  15. N @ September 25th, 2007 at 1:39 am:

    well said…

  16. robjames @ November 8th, 2007 at 11:29 pm:

    how can i get in touch with Blaine. I really like the picture. I am a mission developer preaching on Sunday with the topic “Love Changes People” and would like to ask permission to use the image.

  17. angela @ December 13th, 2007 at 5:35 pm:

    lame

  18. angela @ December 13th, 2007 at 5:36 pm:

    cool picture though

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